New year, new word (there's still time!)

Hi, readers!

Two of you sent me your words for 2024 (enjoy them below!), but more of you wanted to share yours, so you still have a chance to submit (lucky you!)

Here are the instructions:

Send me a message HERE by Wednesday, January 3, 2024, with your word/verse/idea for the new year, and I’ll run it in next Thursday’s blog installment. Subscribers, simply hit reply to this email. (Please include your city and state with your submission.)

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Word for the year 2024: REFRESH

Refresh (v.) = update, revive, restore, give new strength or energy

(in computer language) = send a new signal and display changes

I click the refresh button (Ctrl+ R) for my life, and the picture changes

Updated, but not always new and improved

Sometimes frustrating messages: “can’t reach this page” and “checking the connection”

Connect me with You, Father, and refresh me

Avis, Newfolden, Minnesota

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Mine is persist.

Flicka, Fridley, Minnesota

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New year, new word (2024 edition)

Today is about you, reader.

Do you have a word/verse/idea for the fresh year? What is it? And why?

If you’d like to have your answer published in next Thursday’s blog installment, send me a message HERE by Wednesday, 9:00 p.m. CST. Subscribers, simply hit reply to this email. (Please include your city and state with your submission.)

Here's what I've got for 2024:

Somewhere between viewings of Five Star Christmas and Love Actually, right after I padded to the kitchen for yet another krumkake, I got an early New Year’s gift, my word for 2024. It came as a directive in all caps with an exclamation point driving home its urgency.

EYES FORWARD!

I guess I’m setting aside present distractions and switching my gaze off of the past. Time to zero in on what’s in front of me. It makes me think there’s something notable ahead.

Of course there is.

No, my word for the year isn’t krumkake, but here’s a pic of the Norwegian treat anyway. (Mom made us three batches.)


Ponder

I awoke today with the word ponder on my mind. It was meant for the blog, and I didn’t anticipate it leading to terrible things.

For most women, the first announcement comes in two blue lines on a white plastic stick. Mary got her soon-to-be-pregnant news from an angel.

I once heard someone say if you see an angel, you’re in a dire place and need help. Far from cherubic, those heavenly beings are terrifying. And Mary was terrified to see one too.

Global worker Dick Brogden writes, “The soft lights and gentle music of Christmas alternate with the festive side of the holidays and lead us to excise the terror of God coming to tabernacle on earth. Missing the terror of Christmas, we miss its deeper peace. God coming near is both wonderful and terrible: wonderful for it leads to our salvation, and terrible for it leads to our judgment… Jesus came to earth to divide out sin and to crush it. Christmas starts a war that ends with peace.”

I prefer to focus on the cozier side of Christmas and of Mary, the teenager favored by God. She was the girl God trusted—and she trusted Him back.

There’s a familiar Christmas song asking the same questions I wonder today. Did Mary know what was coming when she accepted the assignment and welcomed the pregnancy? Did she get it when she gazed at her baby, watched Him take His first steps, and noticed Him missing that day on their road trip home from Jerusalem? Did she see a flash of whips and blood and agony when she felt His infant hand squeeze her finger? Or sense the coming elation of His abandoned grave?

Maybe Mary caught a glimpse of the future of her boy Who still stirs up trouble with His presence. Or maybe she didn’t. But she pondered all the details she knew, giving thorough care to store the memories for later.

Today I ponder too, trying to imagine. And I’m terrified, comforted, and at peace because Christmas calls for all of it.

Glory to God in the highest heaven, and on earth peace to those on whom his favor rests.


Treasure hunt: Part 3

It’s Christmastime, but all I see today is my first girl in a pink jumper—one-and-a-half trips around the sun to her name—crouching to claim her treasure. A thousand pastel ovals dot the rolling field of green, begging to be taken. Kids zig and zag, snapping up as many as they can tote in their buckets, but my toddler’s basket is empty, and she’s content with the first egg she finds. She plops onto the ground to open it.

I squint in the Arizona sun and sit with my little one on the grass. It’s only April 15, but it’s warm—especially with the five-month-along bump under my sundress to keep me cozy.

The unborn one that Easter of 2001 eventually got her own basket, and so did the sister who followed her. We soon learned all three of our girls knew how to locate hidden treasure, no training necessary—even with the passing years as the hunts grew more challenging.

Object permanence, the ability of a baby to know things still exist even when they’re not seen, is the start of a magical adventure. And we humans forever seek it as we pursue the special edition, the specific tool, the lost earring, the perfect gift, the ideal person.

Vestiges of the search follow me through my life. I'm decades beyond the Arizona egg hunt and thousands of miles away from it too, but the eternity-set-in-the-human-heart moves me to fetch the mail, check the calendar, click the text, open the box. My life is full of chasing, hoping, expecting, waiting. And now it's Christmastime when more is more.

I quiet myself and focus on the Truth again.

You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart...

The reminder is everything. There's no need for all the looking; I've been interacting with treasure this whole time.

... and I will be found by you.

My Great Reward is here.



Treasure hunt: Part 2

This season of giving to others makes me want to search for thrifted treasures for me. It’s pretty self-serving, if you get right down to it, and I wish we Americans shared England’s altruistic term, charity shops, for those delightful stores where I find all the used stuff.

This thrifting for ME in a season for OTHERS defeats the holiday spirit, and maybe therein lies my 2018 lesson. (Remember the second-hand lamp? If you missed the drama then, click HERE now to enjoy it.)

Two weeks ago, I swiped a discerning gaze through my local thrift stores. A breathless assessment of their inventory on a Tuesday morning during my workday showed me I had picked the right day. So much art, so little time.

As an employment consultant, I’m required to do weekly job development. My clever supervisor once shared with me her techniques for conducting the task, even while running errands: simply ask job-related questions of the managers or employees while shopping, and done; it counts for the spreadsheet. And who knows? A job for one of our clients could result from our efforts, she said.

That Tuesday at Savers, I scooped up a 2 x 3-foot oil-painted landscape, a three-dimensional Jesus Walking on Water picture, two paintings of roses by Dianne Harter, a rosemåling plaque, a modern man-body done in acrylic on canvas, and a piece that looked like an ethereal scarf caught under glass. I edged toward a manager moving about on the sales floor.

“So, I’m curious about what it’s like to work here,” I said, noting the blue glass vase in the woman’s hand. She placed it on a shelf and smiled.

We chatted. I wove in questions about their hiring practices, seven-year background checks, the application and interviewing process, and oh, was there drug testing? I finally revealed my identity as an employment consultant and thanked her for the information. She said things like if I had more questions, I could reach out, and other things like I should send my people her way, and she'd be happy to talk with them. I made a mental note, but it was hard to hear her over the thoughts about the artwork in my cart and where it should live in my house.

I paid and lugged my new treasures out to the truck.

“Whatcha got there?” Husband-on-the-couch said when I got home. TV voices in the background debated a criminal case.

“Nothing of concern,” I said sweetly, waving a hand. “The total was like $60, so…”

“Hmm,” he said, more interested in the fictional court hearing anyway.

I arranged my new things just so, and two revelations hit me:

1. It is the glory of God to conceal a matter and the honor of kings to search it out. (Maybe God is into treasure hunts as much as we are.)

2. The chartreuse walls in the bathroom where I hung the rose paintings now call for a pink rug. (I’ll check the thrift stores tomorrow.)

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Five senses and a time of thanks

I’m pausing my treasure hunt stories to give thanks. My whole being is grateful today, and my five senses are awakened to the goodness all around me.

I’m thankful I can smell fresh laundry, taste wasabi, feel the cowhide rug under my bare feet, hear bossa nova music playing right now, and see the future in my grown-up girls.

I asked my family:

Husband: I am thankful for the feel of g-forces pushing me back into my seat as the plane takes off, the sound of Reverend Peyton and Larkin Poe and my friend’s voice on the other end of the phone making me laugh, the sight of the backyard I get to wake up to, the smell of wood fire in the fall and winter, and the taste of food shared with good friends.

Flicka: I am thankful for the feeling of the ground under my feet and the sun on my face while I drink my coffee on the front step. I am thankful for the taste and smell of said coffee as well as the smell of wet dirt and leaves in the fall. I am thankful for the jazz music I listen to going to and from work and the sound of silence when I turn the car off to go inside. I am thankful for my sight—all the books I can read and the faces I can see.

Ricka: I’m thankful for:

  • the feeling of the wind blasting into my hands and face leaning out of the window on a summer evening drive

  • the smell of pools in hotels that remind me of the excitement of being a little kid

  • the smiles I see in people—smiles are some of my favorite things God created

  • hearing the noise of my family laughing until we cry, singing made-up songs, talking in funny accents, and just causing a ruckus

  • the taste of T Bell at midnight when you’re with all your best friends and you’re SO hungry and you finally give in to the craving

Dicka: I’m thankful for the smell of lilacs that tell me spring is here. I’m thankful for the sound of music playing with the windows down on a summer night. I’m thankful for the taste of shrimp fried rice from my favorite Chinese restaurant. I’m thankful for the feeling of my family’s hugs. I’m thankful I can see beautiful sunsets with my family or friends.

What are you thankful for?

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Treasure hunt: Part 1

I picked through my dish of rings, searching for The One. I don’t often wear my original wedding ring, favoring a silver band I bought in France to my marquise diamond set in gold—an iteration owned by almost everyone wed in the early nineties.

But I wanted to wear it that day in August of 2018 to another wedding. My dress called for a gold ring, and so it would be. But no.

Where was my ring?

Maybe it was in another jewelry box or dish or jar. But none of those offered up the missing piece. When had I last spotted it? Memories were hazy. Had the girls borrowed it for fun? They said no.

I conducted a massive purge of the house in early 2018 in the weeks before Flicka’s graduation reception. Did I scoop it up by mistake then—along with tarnished hoops, bracelets missing beads, and souvenir shell necklaces—and donate it? Life was full of people; I threw parties, hosted events, and hired cleaning ladies for jobs. What if someone—? But I couldn’t let my mind wander there.

Husband selected that gold ring for me in 1992 without my input. He wished to surprise me. Also, I was greedy back then, and he couldn’t afford my choices; better to keep me out of the process altogether is how the legend goes. He had chosen well, though—all on his own.

As we boxed up our house to move in 2020, I yearned for that bit of diamond and gold, my hopeful eye tuned to its possible glint in dusty corners or in places where beds once stood.

Still nothing.

Yes, it’s only a material possession. No, it doesn’t truly matter in this life. But at the end of 2023 now, I still pine a little for that ring. What if it could call to me from its hidden place like Wisdom, who takes her stand on the heights, at the crossroads, next to city gates, and at the entrance of portals?

She is better than any wedding ring in the world, and she cries out to anyone who will listen:

Take my instruction instead of silver, and knowledge rather than choice gold, for wisdom is better than jewels, and all that you may desire cannot compare with her.

No examining dust under beds. No poking through old jewelry boxes. Just ears to hear and a heart to perceive.

I walk in the way of righteousness, in the paths of justice, granting an inheritance to those who love me, and filling their treasuries.

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Stories from synesthetes

Some people enjoy a private life filled with colors, shapes, flavors, and sounds the majority of the world doesn’t experience. These people are called synesthetes.

Last week’s blog generated a big response I wasn’t expecting. Some of you reached out to me, calling what I described a superpower. Some of you said you were envious of what I reported, and some of you asked the colors of your names. (It’s true. To me, all of your names have colors.)

In case you missed it, you can read last week’s blog installment HERE. Otherwise, enjoy these readers' responses.

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I totally see letters and numbers in color! My hubby thinks I’m crazy, but a bunch of my kids see it too. I had no idea it had a name! I see the numbers in a distinct physical format (as well as the months of the year). Glad I’m not alone in this! I see the months as a horseshoe with the opening to the right. There is a jump from December to January. I see numbers starting out horizontal from left to right, then going vertical!

Coco, Altoona, Wisconsin

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This has me thinking more about what I’m actually seeing with letters and numbers! The colors shift and don’t remain the same all of the time. I also have feelings towards letters and numbers… some I find warmer/colder in personality than others!

Bea, Monticello, Minnesota

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Letters don’t so much have a colour, but time has a shape. For example, the months of the year are in a circle and so right now, November, is at the southernmost part of the circle. I suppose that’s a form of synesthesia. I am in the midst of these ideas with my research work. Yesterday in our meeting (three PhDs and three associates–we are paired), we were talking about how the mind organizes adjectives into colour groups. Right now I am coding codings and finding like meanings (20 different colours). The researcher I am paired with also used colour, so we are going to put together our findings. The discussion went on to if labeling can truly be objective and how do we eliminate subjectivity when we are trying to find meanings to data. I think the takeaway is that one can’t, as much as we want trueness and faithfulness in handling data, subjectivity is always present.

Flo, Transcona, Manitoba

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Some of the colors and sizes have changed for me over the years. Letters have always been in various (though changing) colors, but they vary in size, shape, and arrangement! Letters for me arrange themselves in a spiral-like structure, sort of like a tornado funnel! That makes x, y, and z smaller and toward the bottom. Numbers have also been in color but aligned mostly left to right, much more orderly than letters!

I’m embarrassed to tell you that my mental prayer list (primarily family members) starts out with names (not faces!) in a horizontal sequence and then moves to a vertical arrangement! Weird! Maybe that’s like a family tree but not really.

Birdie, Newfolden, Minnesota

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Color me different

Yesterday, my supervisor delivered the icebreaker question to start our weekly team meeting. “If your personality had a color, what color would it be?”

“Light blue,” I said, not missing a beat.

My coworkers shifted into contemplation mode, frowning or drinking from water bottles or bunching their lips to one side, their eyebrows coming together. Seconds lapsed. Why the deliberation? They acted like they had never thought of this—like they didn’t see letters and numbers and sounds in color.

“A person I serve has synesthesia,” one of the women said. “He says the sound of my voice is lavender.”

I wanted to say, Well, yeah but didn’t. Not that her voice sounded lavender to me, but the concept was my reality, and it wasn’t hers? I jotted the new-to-me word on paper: synesthesia.

My mind spirited me back to a day in college when I must’ve admitted my outlook to a classmate.

“So, what color is the letter a?” she asked.

“Yellow,” I said.

“Hmm.” A wrinkled nose accompanied her smile.

And a green traffic light sounds like an e-flat played on a flute, I wanted to say but didn’t.

Since my very beginning, I've enjoyed my secret life where colors marry letters and numbers. And I've enjoyed it as normal. After college, no one asked again, and I didn’t think about the sensory crossover anymore.

Until yesterday.

“So, do you see numbers and letters in color?” I asked Husband.

“No.” And he surveyed me like he wasn’t entirely sure I was okay.

I bandied the question over to Flicka and Ricka. No, neither one had the pleasure, but at least Ricka understood my meandering reasons for why I saw her name in navy blue.

I dug into the condition—or gifting, as many creatives consider it—and learned 4% of the population has what I have, or variations of it—others who can taste shapes or smell sounds, hear discomfort or see music. It's not a disease, disorder, or disability, sources say, but an automatic and involuntary blending of senses. The brain is a spectacular place but unusual. Try telling your doctor the pain in your side sounds like a swelling pump organ. (And no, I’m not trying to be poetic.)

I'm fully awake now and know I walk through the world with only a few others who also see the letter k as orange. Or maybe it's another color for you.

What do you see?

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Angels and bananas

Last night, I ate soup from a bowl my former neighbor, Marie, gave me. I’ve been thinking about her and the old neighborhood a lot these days.

Here’s a sweet little something from 2018 to go with your coffee this morning. Enjoy!

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“I drive around the block every night before I head to work,” Edward says, forearms resting on his back gate. “I check on your house too. Make sure everything’s okay over there.”

I try to think of what we did to deserve our own nightshift-working guardian angel who happens to live down the alley and monitors our block while we sleep, but I come up empty.

“I appreciate it,” Husband says, his head bobbing.

“What would we do without you?” And this time when I say it, it’s not a rhetorical question.

Edward’s eyes glow, and the back door of his house swings open. His wife Marie steps out and saunters toward us, a smile splashed on her face.

I exchange a hug with the woman who gave me her grandmother’s ceramic bowls—and warm memories of her whenever I eat soup from them. Before those dishes, though, she gave us something even better: her daughter, whose presence improved our basketball court out back. For years, the sight of that kid’s pump fakes and dribble drives, as she played with at least six other teenagers on our driveway, made my heart clench. In those days, Marie gave all the neighborhood kids stern warnings about practicing manners while they shot hoops at our place too. And my heart squeezes even now.

But we have to leave.

“We’ll have you guys over for pizza,” Husband says for the umpteenth time, even though jobs usually trample our intentions when we pull out our calendars. But hope and pizza live together in our neighborhood, so here we go again.

One summer day, Marie calls, telling me she’s got something for me. She drops off the present—a black garbage bag filled with overripe bananas—on my porch. She rescued the fruit, destined for the dumpster, from her workplace, because why should it all go to waste? I peel, slice, and zip the bananas into freezer bags for their cold sleep. In the winter, I’ll do some baking with Marie’s gift and think of Edward and his watchful rounds night after night. And of course I’ll think of her too, always finding ways to make our lives sweeter than banana bread.

We fire up the outdoor pizza oven on a rainy Monday, but Edward and Marie are working and can’t make it over for a slice this time either.

“Why don’t you put in your order?” I tell Marie. “We’ll make you a couple for after work. I don’t care how late it is.”

She laughs. “Okay. Sausage, green pepper, and mushrooms for me. Just meat—or whatever you’ve got—for Edward.”

Around ten o’clock that night, she pulls her car up to the curb in front of our house. I head outside, balancing one pizza pan on each palm. She jumps from her vehicle, meets me on the sidewalk, and hugs my middle because my hands are full.

“I would’ve delivered to your house, you know,” I say.

She laughs again. She’s appreciative, she says, but I think I feel it more. While pizzas are nice, I’ll take angels and bananas any day.

*Names in this blog have been changed to protect my family, neighbors, and friends in the neighborhood, and in a nod of appreciation to the beloved Swedish author Maj Lindman, I’ve renamed my three blondies Flicka, Ricka, and Dicka.


Lessons from the kitchen: Part 3

I eye my grocery list again. Mustard seeds, it says in Husband’s handwriting.

I think of what they call “a tiny seed with a lot of spunk” and gaze at my man, planted on the couch next to me.

“Tell me about the mustard seeds you put on the grocery list,” I say, hoping he’ll deliver something profound I can use for the blog.

“I don’t know,” he says. “I use them in pickles.”

And maybe his simple response holds the same plucky spirit as the seeds.

I dig deeper. When ingested, the seeds—rich in minerals and antioxidants—increase blood circulation, treat inflammation, and protect the body from cancer. When planted, the mustard seed will grow anywhere, the experts say. It’s prolific, rarely bothered by pests, and its roots grow down deep, adding nutrients back to the soil around it.

If you have faith as small as a mustard seed, the Great Gardener says, you can say to this mountain, “Move from here to there,” and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.

If the mustard seed is one to two millimeters in diameter, what’s the size of my faith?

I tried it at the Black Hills and nothing happened. But I also used it when the ultrasounds showed my baby in utero had a hole in her heart, the Volvo’s brakes failed in 42nd Avenue’s heavy traffic, we smelled gas in the house, and our empty fuel tank threatened to stall us out in the middle of the Great Salt Lake Desert.

So, was my faith big enough? Dicka was born with a healthy heart, I drove that Swedish car home safely, a tech from the utility company patched the leak in time, and our vehicle propelled us—on fumes—to a gas station on the other side of the desert. It was also big enough all the times I didn’t get what I wanted, and it grew—especially then—from a seed into a tree.

Like canning and grocery lists, kitchen lessons are endless, but I'm sticking with this last one and grabbing onto a meme I spotted this morning: I have a mustard seed, and I'm not afraid to use it!

Let's move some mountains.

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Lessons from the kitchen: Part 2

I don’t care which way a person installs a new roll of toilet paper. I change it so it’s rolling off the top, but it’s not a big deal. I’m not judging.

I don’t care if people desert their damp towels on the bathroom floor. I scoop them up and toss them into the laundry. Not much thought goes into it.

I don’t care if a pan is left encrusted with food. I soak it and tackle the scrubbing later. My mind is already onto the next thing.

I do care about The List, though. It’s only a simple Post-it Note on the kitchen counter, but its contents—or lack thereof—mean something to me.

“People,” I say to the inhabitants of the house, “if you see we’re out of something or running low on anything, put it on the list.”

They all nod like they love me enough to do my bidding, and 79% of the time, they do. But then I don’t have cream for my coffee or butter for my popcorn, and if my life were a comic strip, a dark scribble would appear in my thought bubble.

It’s not like you have to buy the item, I tell everybody all the time. Just make a note of it, please. Did anybody hear me? You did? Okay, good. Then do it. Thank you.

The List is a medium for communication, and the household members like to rattle my spelling cage when they use it: oitmilk, bagles, crem chez, toona, qwasonts. And they abbreviate things too: bluebs and strawbs, shred ched, spark wat.

A long-term house guest once heard me chiding the others about The List, and not fully apprised of the rules, she added her request: Sheep’s milk cheese from Whole Foods

One time, next to the sandwich meat, The List contained anonymous chastisement: You all have baditudes, every last one. And another time, between the spinach and Coleman's mustard, it declared endearment: I love you, Mom

The List shows me Husband’s canning passions of late, and sometimes I don’t even know what I’m buying. Or he can do the shopping to ensure accuracy, is what I might say.

I went on a hunt for mustard seeds—they were on The List one canning day—and they were an elusive commodity in all the stores I checked. So, I thought a lot about mustard seeds, which led me to contemplate faith and mountains. If you know, you know.

And I guess that’s where the lesson resides: in what some claim to be the tiniest seed on the planet. But this is going long for today, so that can be a point for next time.

‘K, bye.

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Lessons from the kitchen: Part 1

Husband’s up to his delicious tricks again, and the Google family calendar entices me with what lies ahead on various dates: Taste the new pickles, Pickled eggs ready, 6 weeks from production of sauerkraut, and so on.

Life in the new house has brought out the man’s inner food scientist, and he dabbles in pickling, canning, and fermenting, tinkering with timing, ingredients, and crisping agents.

Also, we have jars upon jars—all sizes of jars, if you were wondering. (This blog installment could’ve been called Jars.)

“Do we have enough jars yet?” I ask.

“Not really,” Husband says.

Eggplant antipasto, pineapple-turmeric sauerkraut, pickled cauliflower, and pepper jelly have found their spots in our kitchen in recent months, and my man's not even close to done.

The two of us click around on our phones in the evenings. I search for full-body workouts that span mere minutes or watch that knitted toad on Instagram as he flits through his stop-motion life. The guy next to me? He’s researching how to take on a massive epoxy/wood table build or dry age beef at home.

I see a theme. Husband embraces delayed gratification and quality results. I, on the other hand, like the quick way to almost everything. I don't recommend limp pickles, though, so don't copy me. Be like Husband and wait.

The more I consider this blog post, the more I think it's a personal lesson for me I didn't have to drag you through on your Thursday, so carry on with your day.

(But come back next week if you're curious about what else I've learned in the kitchen that likely only applies to me.)

Husband and a few of his jars.

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Thoughts on the farm: Part 2

“We could play another round tonight,” Mom says, “but maybe you’re too tired to lose again.”

If there’s more trash-talking somewhere in the world over a game of Bananagrams, I don't know about it.

As I sit at my 81-year-old mother's diningroom table, flipping letter tiles to prepare for the competition's opening “Split!”, I think of her recent misadventure on the farm and how, on August 30, 2023, her three-legged dog and riding companion on her EZ-Go mashed his furry body on the accelerator and sent the golf cart crashing into her house, the impact ramming the steering wheel into her ribs and catapulting her out of the driver's seat and into her garden.

They call it an accident because it's unexpected, undesirable, unintended, and not directly caused by humans—or so says Wikipedia. That last part makes me think the internet knew all about Mom's mainly Australian Shepherd/Sheepdog/Blue Heeler mix.

After The Accident, Mom heated up a bowl of tomato soup for her lunch. A thought nagged her, though, and she could almost hear the words of my nurse-sister: “Get it checked out.”

She drove herself to the ER in Thief River Falls, Minnesota, and won a bed and overnight stay in the hospital. The doctors, after viewing the results of her liver scan (don't mess around with internal bleeding, people), sent her by helicopter to Fargo, North Dakota, where she found her next bed—this one in the ICU.

After Mom's release six days later, we four sisters staggered our visits, each of us spending a handful of days on the farm to oversee her transition back to life as she knew it. Healing, like life, takes a whole lot of farmhands.

I form words from the little tiles in front of me. Because of Mom's recent accident, I could restrain myself from a Bananagram victory today, but I don’t. Why go easy on this woman who can hold her masterful own in this world of words? I assemble something creative.

“No, dear,” Mom says, eyeing my string of characters. “That's not a word.”

Busted.

“Husband's looking for zucchini for a recipe,” I say, changing the subject. “Got any you want to get rid of?”

“No, but I'll check with Bernie.” Mom texts her mailman like it's the most normal thing in the world.

His answer comes faster than I can spell joist (which is fast because I already had all the letters on hand.)

“He says he can get some zucchini from so-and-so,” and Mom mentions the name of a lady in town who has the summer squash Husband wants.

“Seriously?” I think about Mom's mailman now, rolling up to her rural mailbox in his vehicle, deploying his Super Soaker on her two dogs when they trot too close to his tires but also bringing them deer legs for treats when they're lucky.

Days earlier, Bernie texted her: Broken rib medicine in garage

Mom found potatoes, onions, cabbage, leeks, tomatoes, cucumbers, zucchini, and a bouquet of sunflowers. Another day during her convalescence, Bernie brought her old Reader's Digests. Today, he dropped off an old peanut jar “vase” filled with his homegrown gladiolas—to go with her mail.

This mail delivery arrangement seems heavy on the gifts, but Mom says she once loaned Bernie her chicken plucker so maybe it all comes out even.

Mom cleans up at Bananagrams while I imagine her life in the country, replete with love, mail, humor, and all the garden veggies required to heal a broken rib and hematoma on her liver.

It's not a bad gig, this visiting a recuperating patient on the farm. Not a bad gig at all.

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Thoughts on the farm: Part 1

I strode around Mom’s property in northern Minnesota—a piece of land closer to Canada than to Iowa—on Monday, September 18, 2023, the seventeenth anniversary of Dad’s passing.

The day was in the low eighties, an unusual temperature for a place known for the possibility of frost in September. A lover of summer, I thrill to a warm fall, certain I feel God’s love most in the heat.

I rounded the southwest corner of the yard and entered “the wedding aisle,” a term someone had once used for the neat row of trees back there. A stroll down the aisle always feels like a triumphal procession; nature watches me, and I smile back. And so it went that day too.

Just beyond the midpoint of the path, I stopped. Turning, I gazed back to the start and snapped a picture of my past.

Like my life, I thought. Over halfway there.

I aimed my steps forward again and clicked a photo of my future. I moved into it. A freshly-shorn field, post white-unto-harvest, loomed ahead. My destination.

Mom’s dogs—the three-legged one and his younger friend—bounded next to me, sometimes stealing seconds to sniff the trees, other times ripping toward new fascinations.

I came to the end of the aisle and captured another picture. The work done; the harvest gathered in.

Life is golden.

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